I'm such a hit or miss blogger. Sometimes I get on a roll, and other times I just abandon the blogging world all together for a while! The problem with this is, I start to lose track of my bloggy friends and it takes some serious time to catch up. This problem coupled with the fact that I still can't comment on people's blogs most of the time (crushing to me), is making me look like a terrible blogger/friend. I have emails I need to respond to, but my email is jacked right now...and I'm pretty sure this email problem and the commenting problem go hand in hand. I know I'm kind of a big deal, right (?), but on the other hand I know ya'll aren't checking your emails/blogs daily for my comments/response...but just know that I'm working on it. I'm still thinking about all of you and praying for all of you!!
So I was just reading this blog that I follow. This lady has done like 3 IUI's, 3 IVF's and finally got pregnant on her third...what a journey!! Well, she's several months into her pregnancy and has been receiving nasty comments and emails about her being pregnant. WTH?? I absolutely cannot wrap my mind around sitting down at my computer, choosing an "anon" identity and then just blasting a woman for finally getting her blessing that she WORKED HARD for! And the commenters? Infertile women. After reading many comments, it is of my opinion that for some infertile women it has become some sort of contest as to who has suffered more or who has spent more money. I just became so enraged reading some of the things these women have said on her blog. Infertility is awful, it really is. It arouses some truly ugly emotions...here are few, but not limited to...bitterness, jealousy, depression, anger, confusion, guilt. But, it should not be in our power to be able to unleash these emotions on, what used to be, our fellow infertile in the TTC journey. Infertility is not a reason to be mean or hateful or hurtful!!
When I find out a fellow IFer is pregnant, my heart leaps in pure joy, honestly. Because I am human and I'm just being honest...it does tend to be a little difficult to continue to follow their blog for the whole nine months. It just becomes too painful to watch the growing belly. With that said, my unflattering feelings and emotions are reserved for women that have children but don't want them, women who took too many jello shots and met Mr. Right Now and BAM...you catch my drift. My heart hurts for this woman that is being put on blast. Have ya'll seen this going on on blogs where IF women get pregnant? What do you think?
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6 days ago
3 Fabulous Comments:
I haven't seen negative comments on IF blogs, but how rude! I can't imagine going through all the effort to actually write out such hateful words. Some people just need to quit reading those blogs if it bothers them so much. It's sad though that we can't all support each other. And you aren't a bad blogger! :)
I have seen the negative comments on IF blogs and am always appalled. I am equally offended however when I read pregnant IF bloggers who have clearly lost sight of the struggle of infertility and ostracize the women that supported them all along.
It is painful on all sides for sure but that never excuses people for being rude. I don't fault anyone for no longer wanting to follow my journey if it is too difficult for them, but geesh to make the effort to be mean is insane.
I like what you said about a little bit of competition over who has done the most and spent the most- people have insinuted (in real life not blog world) that I truly don't know what infertility is like since my journey was shorter and much different than other women- that hurts the most!!!
hope your tech woes are solved soon, lol!!
People are buttheads, through and through. There's no doubt about that. You just have to shake off the negative Nancies and move on. I hate that a fellow blogger is having to deal with that, though. Especially one who is dealing with such a rocky time! I'll be praying for them!
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